Good morning! And Happy Thursday! Friday is just a day away. “Tomorrow, tomorrow, I love ya, tomorrow…”
Today I want to talk about the importance of friends. Friendships – good ones – enrich our lives in so many ways. Now I’m talking about real friendships here, not surface ones. Those are called “acquaintances.” I’m talking about those few people in your life that you could call at 3:00 a.m. in an emergency and they’d be wherever you are as fast as their fannies could get there. You only need a few – a select few. Ones that you can tell a secret to and know that it won’t end up on Facebook before you’re done talking. Ones who say “I’ll pray for you” and you know that they will. Those who will walk alongside you through good times and bad times. No one needs “fair weather” friends – the ones who are around when all is good but hit the door running as soon as something bad happens. Nope, you don’t need those.
Last night, the ladies from my small group (from church) got together for our monthly ladies’ night. There were eight of us there. There was eating (duh!) and laughter and some serious conversation – and some not so serious. Hence the laughter. Every month when we get together, we learn a little bit more about each other. We open up a little bit more and share more about ourselves. We are a support group for one another. Each of us knows that the others are there for us. I hope that even the new ladies feel that way. Have a crisis? Call one of us. Need a meal? Call one of us. Need to hear words of encouragement? Call one of us. It’s that kind of group. I feel like we grow closer every month. (Our group also has a monthly guys’ night…I have no idea what they talk about. Hopefully, they are getting the same friendship base as we are. Guys need friends, too.)
Then there are those friends that you’ve had since you were young. I have two friends who were my first friends when I moved to South Carolina in the third grade. We were close all through high school and even through college. Now that we don’t live as close or go to the same church, we don’t see each other very often. But when we do, we can pick right back up like we saw each other the day before. I know I could call either of them at 3:00 a.m. and they know they could call me. We’ve been through a lot of good times and some tough times together.
Then there are the friends who really do life together with you. Your BFFs. You can have more than one. You can’t have ten. At least, I don’t think so. You should have a core group of friends that you interact with and converse with and share with on a very regular basis. The ones who will tell you that you have spinach in your teeth, or that the outfit you’re wearing does indeed make you look fat, or that you are being grouchy and need to chill. The ones who will walk with you through any crisis whether it’s yours or one of your children’s. The one’s who sit with you at the hospital through your dad’s surgery, or listen to you rant about one thing or the other without judging (or without laughing out loud…usually), who plan birthday surprises for you, whose kids know that they can call you if they can’t get their mom. These are the really deep and abiding friendships. You probably only have a few of these and that’s good. There are just some things you can’t share with your 1,247 Facebook friends. Or that you shouldn’t share. Seriously.
When you have kids – especially little ones – it’s sometimes hard to maintain any relationships outside your house. But it’s important. You’ll need someone to advise you, to guide you, to just hold you together some days. When you call them crying and blubbering because it’s been three days since you last got sleep, a really good friend will show up, take care of the kiddos, and send you to take a nap. And strongly suggest a shower. She’ll do a load of laundry and clean your kitchen And then have coffee ready for you after your “recovery period.” Don’t abandon your friends when your kids are young. You will definitely be needing them when those kids turn into teenagers. Just saying.
It’s so important to maintain these friendships! I can’t stress that enough. We need friends. The super close ones will be by you for a lifetime, I hope. The close ones will vary during the stages of your life probably. You’ll meet new people and will feel a connection and your friendship circle will grow a little. Don’t abandon your friends when life gets busy or hard. That’s when you need them most. Don’t be embarrassed to asked for help. Anything you’d do for them, they’d do for you. Remember that. You don’t always have to be the giver in a real friendship. Sometimes you’re the receiver of the love and kindness. Accept it.
I hope each of you has at least one friend who is going alongside you in your journey to simplify your life. One who is cheering you on at each success and accomplishment. Who comes over and praises you for your clean living room and diminishing laundry pile because they’ve seen the “before” in person and know what a big deal this is for you. They didn’t make you feel bad for the mess, but they sure make you feel good for the progress!
I hope you have a wonderful Thursday! Be sure to reach out to a friend today…just to chat or to show them your before and after pictures of your challenge projects. If there’s coffee shared, all the better! 🙂