Tuesday Tips: Maintaining REAL Friendships

I know this is late, but I got to spend most of the day babysitting a little “snuggle bug,” and then it was on to fixing dinner. 🙂

I’ve been thinking a lot about friendships lately. Don’t really know why, but it’s been on my mind. So many people come into and out of our lives through the years. Some are acquaintances. Some are friendly friends. And some are true, lasting, “call them if you need them in the middle of the night” friends. You don’t need a lot of those. Just a select few. But with so many of us being busy, busy, busy all the time, how do we go about maintaining those friendships? Here are just a few – four, to be exact – “tips” for doing just that.

1. Keep in touch when you can’t see one another.

With today’s technology, social media, etc., there’s really no excuse for NOT keeping in touch. Send an e-mail, send a text, make an actual phone call. Chat on Facebook. Just let your friends know that you’re still around and you’re still there for them even if you can’t see them face to face on a regular basis.

2. Be there for important life events when possible.

Weddings, births, birthdays, funerals, etc. If something major is going on and you can be there to hold a hand or better yet celebrate, be there. Take the time if you can so at all. I have a couple of friends who have been with me – and I with them – through every big good and every big bad thing that has happened in our lives since we were children. I can’t imagine life without them. I don’t see them as often as I could or should, but I know where they are and they know how to find me.

3. Remember birthdays.

Send a card. Send some flowers. Make a lunch date. Just remember her birthday. (Or his, if you’re a guy. But don’t send him flowers. Maybe not even a card.) Give them a shout out on Facebook or Twitter to show the love. Remembering someone on her birthday makes her feel special, and it’s so easy to do.

4. Pray for them.

Whenever a friend comes to mind, say a prayer for them. Just thank God for your friendship and ask Him to bless their day in a special way. And let them know they came to mind and you said a prayer for them. In times of crisis, pray for them constantly.

God sends us a few special, close friends in this life. Neglecting them due to busyness is a sad thing to do. Now, go text, call, or email someone right now and let them know you’re thinking about them and that you love them and appreciate their friendship.


P.S. If you have other tips for keeping friendships vital, please share them with the rest of us. Thanks!


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